Are Snowplow Parents Creating Awful Kids?
Skewed expectations lead to sense of entitlement, crushing disappointment in real world.
The definition of snowplow parents may be new to the American Lexicon, but in reality this breed of parenting has been around since the beginning of time. The idea is that snowplow parents push obstacles out of the way of their precious little snowflakes, so they don't have to do any heavy lifting when it comes to getting the things they want in life, or getting into advanced classes or prestigious schools. As we all know, people have been pulling strings for their children and relatives throughout history. This is why most royal titles are hereditary and the idea of the "idle rich" is used to denote those who got their wealth without any effort. If you have ever been a workplace where relatives of the owner were in key positions they couldn't possibly get on their own initiative, then you know that snowplow parenting is nothing new. In today's world, the idea is that readers of the Tiger Mom genre and Helicopter parents are ruining their kids by pulling strings and pushing kids to succeed without really trying. Instead of learning from their failures, kids are being isolated from them, so suddenly snowplow kids are woefully unprepared to meet the daily challenges of the world outside mom and dad's house.
An article in the Boston Globe showcases the problem caused by snowplow parents. They are so stuck to the performance of their kids that they call college professors and administrators to dispute grades or make complaints on the child's behalf. This can't be good for anybody, especially kids who should be learning to stand up for themselves, or apply themselves insted of always falling back on an advocate.
Notes and Special Information
Special note: Give your kids a chance to learn for themselves, and show them how to overcome obstacles instead of pushing them out of the way. Otherwise, they are going to be leaching off you for the rest of your life.